Unhappiness is an epidemic in our society.
More people are anxious, stressed, depressed and on meds than any other generation in the history of the world. So what's the problem?
People chase around happiness without the slightest clue about what it actually means – running around unaware there are really two types and that they're pursuing the wrong one.
Showing posts with label skill building. Show all posts
Showing posts with label skill building. Show all posts
How To Copy Without Being A Cheat (Or Losing Credibility)
Like getting in a car strangers and looking both ways before you cross the street, not copying is one of those life lessons that are drilled into your head. And not without reason.
Adults were looking out for us. They didn't want us to get kidnapped, hit by a car, or in the case of copying, end up dependent and uneducated. Little did they know they were drawing a line in the sand that limited our growth.
This post is all about why and how copying is good, and leveraging the best practices can bring you immense levels of growth.
Why Failing Sucks, and What to Do About It
A short while ago, I noticed this pattern that I have. To say the least, it was less than glamorous. More specifically, it made me feel pretty shitty.
As a person who is REALLY hard on himself, I can get into some deep self loathing when I realize that I have a bad habit, have been doing something wrong, or have some kind of screw up.
As a person who is REALLY hard on himself, I can get into some deep self loathing when I realize that I have a bad habit, have been doing something wrong, or have some kind of screw up.
October italki Language Challenge Public Pledge
It's time again for a challenge!
Today is the fourth day of the challenge, and I have already finished three hours! Only three more to go, and ten days to do it. No problem!
italki has brought back the language challenge for October, this time challenging participants to finish six hours of classes in fourteen days. Between October 18th - 31st, anyone who is signed up for the challenge can get a $20 rebate on money spent taking classes once they complete the six hours, plus an extra $5 if you post a public pledge video.
Today is the fourth day of the challenge, and I have already finished three hours! Only three more to go, and ten days to do it. No problem!
italki has brought back the language challenge for October, this time challenging participants to finish six hours of classes in fourteen days. Between October 18th - 31st, anyone who is signed up for the challenge can get a $20 rebate on money spent taking classes once they complete the six hours, plus an extra $5 if you post a public pledge video.
How to Successfully Complete an italki Language Challenge
I was facing twenty eight days to finish twelve hours of language classes. I knew I could do it because I had already been studying daily alone and was starting feel that I needed guidance.
Last month's challenge started with a public pledge, and a dose of determination that came from failing the January language challenge. [insert lame excuse here]
Last month's challenge started with a public pledge, and a dose of determination that came from failing the January language challenge. [insert lame excuse here]
June italki Language Challenge Update: Brazilian Portuguese
Olá! Tudo bem?
This month I am participating in the June italki Language Challenge. Maybe you saw my first post with my public pledge video, where I said what I aim to accomplish and used a bit of português brasileiro. What did you think?
Well it is time for an update, because week three has just begun. With my birthday in week one, and being in a wedding in week two, life has been packed to the gills with action and excitement.
7 Online Resources You Should Use for FREE Skill Building
Imagine many universities, top-tier universities, offering you free tuition, each willing to take you in with open arms to help you develop personally and professionally. Is it hard to imagine, or impossible to imagine? I know it's not easy, and I'm going to blame that on the broken higher education system in America.
I keep running into articles and opinions in the social media sphere attacking the dysfunction of the America higher education system. We may not have the perfect solution for how the US can stand up with the developed countries of the world that offer citizens free education, but MOOCs bring us a step closer.
I keep running into articles and opinions in the social media sphere attacking the dysfunction of the America higher education system. We may not have the perfect solution for how the US can stand up with the developed countries of the world that offer citizens free education, but MOOCs bring us a step closer.
My Multilingual Morning
"If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart." Nelson Mandela
It was morning in Vientiane, Laos and it was still raining relatively hard. I hadn't planned for such weather, so I decided not to get soaked walking down the street to Le Banneton, Vientiane's premier boulangerie, and instead take my laptop to the lobby, where the wifi signal is strong and time could be wasted while I waited for the deluge to break. I chose a seat next to a pair of West African gents deep in conversation.
Your Comfort Zone & The Limit of Personal Growth
I once thought I was good at adapting, and quite comfortable being out of my comfort zone. Now it's clear that I was wrong. I realize that I am just good at creating a comfort zone in a foreign place, whether it is beyond national borders or just county lines. Never will I claim that I just randomly had this realization. In fact, the Irish polyglot, Benny Lewis, showed me how wrong I was in this video:
Now I am seeking to break that habit. This is the greatest part about realizing that a routine or habit isn't what you thought it was, you find motivation to make a shift. Once you realize that what you were doing or thinking is not what you were convinced it was, you want to get back to that feeling that you had before you came to the realization. Academics call this creating consonance, but I like to call it resolving inner conflict.
Let's say we just started a new job, as most of us can relate to this. In the beginning it comes with a certain level of anxiety. The uncertainty of the unfamiliar produces anxiety that pushes us to try hard, be efficient, timely, and show that we belong. We are free from the norms and routines of the previous job, we experience new operations and processes, new people, and with any luck manage to gain a friend or two. We have expanded our comfort zone by confronting new situations like the hiring process and starting the new job. After a few months, though, that initial enthusiasm is waning and we start to see everything as dull, boring, routine, and possibly with some spite. We might get lazy with our work and less timely because we have accepted the notion that we belong rather than work to prove it. This is likely similar to the way we felt before we left our last job.
Whether that example is something you can relate to or not, you get the picture. You can apply that example to something more relevant to your life, and now your thinking I have a point. Great! You recognize that we are constantly in a cycle of adapting new and exciting things to be part of our norm. This is called hedonistic adaptation, and it's the process by which new and exciting things become normal and dull. You can find out more on the topic in the next article link you find.
Now, let's move on, because I'm not writing this to point out how humans desire to exist with minimal discomfort. More specifically, I'm hoping to grab your attention so that I can point out how beneficial it is to live with discomfort. Don't get me wrong, I don't mean a lot, I certainly don't mean an uncontrollable amount, and I absolutely don't mean negative discomfort. The right amount is truly a positive force, and without it you aren't going to try anything new, experience anything breathtaking, or push yourself to be a better you than the person just lulling about in the comfort zone. If you need a visual, just click here for a Google Images search of "comfort zone" and you'll quickly get the picture. Here's a sample of what to expect:
In this LifeHacker article, Alan Henry explains that a comfort zone is a "behavioral space where your activities and behaviors fit a routine and pattern that minimizes stress and risk." He cites some psychology research by Yerkes and Dodson, who found that "optimal anxiety" is good for us because it forces us to push beyond our comfort zones to maximize performance, creativity, innovation and more. If you have a lingering anxiety in your life and it isn't crushing your ability to thrive, it's probably helping, and that means you are right where you need to be. If you feel like you need a change or have an interest in making a shift, check out Henry's list of how to break out of your comfort zone in the linked article.
Think about it. When you decide to quit your job or work extra hours to pursue a dream, some anxiety is there. When you push your self to ask out the one you've had your eye on, anxious nervousness has you fidgeting. When you leave your home town or long time residence bound for a place where you know no one, you better believe that as excited as you are anxiety is still sitting shotgun.
If you want details about your comfort zone which are more segmented and specific to areas of your life, I recommend checking out this website to get a measure of your three comfort zones: professional, adrenaline and lifestyle. You might surprise yourself with the results. Then the site hooks you up with great info tailored to your results in each category. At least check it out and see your scores, no one if forcing you act on them or read the insight in the links.
My breakdown of comfort zones is two-fold. On one hand they are great because they provide minimal anxiety and stress with maximum happiness. Sounds great! However, that kind of requires you to rest on your laurels. So, on the second hand they prohibit us from trying new things, they tell us not to chase our dream girl, they prevent us from applying for that perfect job, and they stop us from making life changes like moving to a new place. Comfort zones aren't going to bring us new experience, and they are hardly going to enrich our lives. Unless, that is, none of that sounds like anything you want. If that's the case, just hang tight, things will stay the same. For those desiring enrichment, make a change in the areas of your life where you have the most comfort and take a step out of your comfort zone, a step closer to the magic of your passions.
Update: An earlier version of this article was titled, "Step Toward the Magic."
Now I am seeking to break that habit. This is the greatest part about realizing that a routine or habit isn't what you thought it was, you find motivation to make a shift. Once you realize that what you were doing or thinking is not what you were convinced it was, you want to get back to that feeling that you had before you came to the realization. Academics call this creating consonance, but I like to call it resolving inner conflict.
Let's say we just started a new job, as most of us can relate to this. In the beginning it comes with a certain level of anxiety. The uncertainty of the unfamiliar produces anxiety that pushes us to try hard, be efficient, timely, and show that we belong. We are free from the norms and routines of the previous job, we experience new operations and processes, new people, and with any luck manage to gain a friend or two. We have expanded our comfort zone by confronting new situations like the hiring process and starting the new job. After a few months, though, that initial enthusiasm is waning and we start to see everything as dull, boring, routine, and possibly with some spite. We might get lazy with our work and less timely because we have accepted the notion that we belong rather than work to prove it. This is likely similar to the way we felt before we left our last job.
Whether that example is something you can relate to or not, you get the picture. You can apply that example to something more relevant to your life, and now your thinking I have a point. Great! You recognize that we are constantly in a cycle of adapting new and exciting things to be part of our norm. This is called hedonistic adaptation, and it's the process by which new and exciting things become normal and dull. You can find out more on the topic in the next article link you find.
Now, let's move on, because I'm not writing this to point out how humans desire to exist with minimal discomfort. More specifically, I'm hoping to grab your attention so that I can point out how beneficial it is to live with discomfort. Don't get me wrong, I don't mean a lot, I certainly don't mean an uncontrollable amount, and I absolutely don't mean negative discomfort. The right amount is truly a positive force, and without it you aren't going to try anything new, experience anything breathtaking, or push yourself to be a better you than the person just lulling about in the comfort zone. If you need a visual, just click here for a Google Images search of "comfort zone" and you'll quickly get the picture. Here's a sample of what to expect:
In this LifeHacker article, Alan Henry explains that a comfort zone is a "behavioral space where your activities and behaviors fit a routine and pattern that minimizes stress and risk." He cites some psychology research by Yerkes and Dodson, who found that "optimal anxiety" is good for us because it forces us to push beyond our comfort zones to maximize performance, creativity, innovation and more. If you have a lingering anxiety in your life and it isn't crushing your ability to thrive, it's probably helping, and that means you are right where you need to be. If you feel like you need a change or have an interest in making a shift, check out Henry's list of how to break out of your comfort zone in the linked article.
Think about it. When you decide to quit your job or work extra hours to pursue a dream, some anxiety is there. When you push your self to ask out the one you've had your eye on, anxious nervousness has you fidgeting. When you leave your home town or long time residence bound for a place where you know no one, you better believe that as excited as you are anxiety is still sitting shotgun.
If you want details about your comfort zone which are more segmented and specific to areas of your life, I recommend checking out this website to get a measure of your three comfort zones: professional, adrenaline and lifestyle. You might surprise yourself with the results. Then the site hooks you up with great info tailored to your results in each category. At least check it out and see your scores, no one if forcing you act on them or read the insight in the links.
My breakdown of comfort zones is two-fold. On one hand they are great because they provide minimal anxiety and stress with maximum happiness. Sounds great! However, that kind of requires you to rest on your laurels. So, on the second hand they prohibit us from trying new things, they tell us not to chase our dream girl, they prevent us from applying for that perfect job, and they stop us from making life changes like moving to a new place. Comfort zones aren't going to bring us new experience, and they are hardly going to enrich our lives. Unless, that is, none of that sounds like anything you want. If that's the case, just hang tight, things will stay the same. For those desiring enrichment, make a change in the areas of your life where you have the most comfort and take a step out of your comfort zone, a step closer to the magic of your passions.
Update: An earlier version of this article was titled, "Step Toward the Magic."
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